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Procrastina-Teen.

Here we go… School is in full swing so is the procrastination.

The Teen has had a few pretty good bouts with the procrastination already in the last couple years. The first time was a research paper that she had to do in 5th grade (why in the world they had 5th graders doing research papers still baffles me to this day). She had a month to do it, and she told me about the assignment about two weeks into the assignment. Those were two very long weeks… But somehow she managed to get 100% on the silly thing.

Last year she had a couple of book reports to do. She did okay on the first one…except for the part where she just scrawled down some stuff and was just going to turn it in as is until I reminded her that it was for ELA (which back in the day was just known as “English” and not “English language Arts.”) , and there should probably be some drafts and editing involved. She was mad, but thankful when she got an A on it. The second one she gave herself a week to do, but spent three days working on drafts for the pictures she was going to put in it instead of working on the content. Again, she lucked out and got a good grade.

I decided that this year I was going to let her learn the hard way. You snooze you lose. I think we’ve all had to learn this lesson that way. I know I have… for me it was a big fat D on a huge research project in 11th grade honors English that I waited until the last minute to do.

I got an email on September 1st from  the Teen’s science teacher letting me know she has two “major” projects due soon. The first one I knew about.. But the “proposal for a science fair project” I knew nothing about. Sounds like something that involves some thought and planning doesn’t it?

Every day since I got the email I asked “is that all the homework you have?”
Every day “yep. Just algebra.”
Okie dokie. If you say so.

This proposal was due  9/9.  So on the 8th when she got home I asked the same question… “Is that all the homework you have?”

“No, I have science too.”

Fancy that.

Then I got the “I forgot about it.” 

Then I read the assignment. She has to come up with a proposal for a science fair project that will have to be completed, and will end up being 25% of her science grade.  For the proposal, she had to have a question that her experiment would answer, 7 references she would use for her project, a budget and explain the purpose of the experiment. Sounds like I was right in thinking this was something that needed more than a few hours to do.

Then she says, “I’ve been thinking about what I want to do all day since the teacher reminded me.”

All day= since after lunch.

The only things she could come up with were:

1. Getting 3 plants. Watering 1 plant with water, Another plant with sugar-water and the other with artificial sweetener water.

2. Getting 4 plants. Watering 1 with water, one with soda, one with juice and one with something else.

3. Researching methods of dog training, and using 3 different methods, teaching the dog 3 different tricks of equal difficulty.

She opted for the dog training.  Which is something that she definitely can’t procrastinate when it comes to actually doing the project.. since it’s not something you can do the night before.  I thought it was pretty clear that the proposal was not well thought out, and it was obviously done at the last-minute. Her references were three websites she Googled,  2 documentaries she found of Netflix, some random book she has with something about dog training in it… and she supposedly went to the library that morning to look up a seventh one. 

Anyway… there was much talk about procrastinating. I told her straight up that I wasnt going to say a word about the assignment and I was going to let her go to school without doing it just to learn the lesson. 

 She swore she isn’t going to do it anymore.

Then came the essay she had to do last weekend. She wanted to get it done friday night… then we ate dinner.. then she sat on her butt all day saturday. Finally she decided to finish it on Sunday… not even knowing if we had any plans. She just assumed that she’d have all day to finish it.  Sheesh.

Next up… a book report for ELA…she has six of them due by the end of the year.  She’s known about this since  the first week of school. I’m pretty sure she’s read the book. I heard her tell my sister that she finished whatever it is. But here we are.. its due on Friday and she hasn’t started it. One would think that after all lectures and talks about putting things off.. that she’d think to start the silly thing.

So, here is the thing that totally frustrates, irritates, and just pisses me off.

I checked her science grades on-line yesterday afternoon.

That teacher gave her 100% on the proposal.

SERIOUSLY!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?

How is she going to learn the lesson I want her to learn, when she keeps getting great grades when she turns in less than great work?

This is supposed to be Honors Science. You’d think she’d expect more than something clearly thrown together at the last-minute. Grrrrr. Part of me wants to email her teacher and say WTH? Was it not clear that it didn’t have any thought behind it? Or was it just that she turned it in?

 Maybe her ELA teacher will be less forgiving when she scribbles something down at the last-minute.

I’ll just have to keep my fingers crossed.

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Holy Crap.

I had a “free” session with a personal trainer today.

Holy crap.

Of course, she’s 22 , fresh out of college, skinny and cute. I felt really old. Although, she did say that she thought I was only in my late 20’s when she first met me. Score one for the cute, skinny 22-year-old.

She kicked my old, fat butt in only 30 minutes.

When I didn’t keel over after being on the treadmill for the first 5 minutes of my warm up.  I was pretty sure I was going to survive.  Please note that was only “pretty sure” – definitely not 100% sure.

Holy Crap is  my new motto.

I must have said it 100 times while I was doing the workout.

I am not 100% sure that I will be able to walk tomorrow, especially since I have having issues right now. Oh, and I completely passed out on the couch for a couple of hours too. The girls were outside playing with the dog, I sat down on the couch and the next thing I know it was 5:30.

I did sign up to meet with the trainer twice a month. I hope to find some moolah in our budget to do it. I know right now I definitely will benefit from her kicking my butt. I cringed when she did all the math and figured out how much body fat I have and need to lose. UGH. But it’s all about the baby steps. Right? One day at a time. Today was a huge step for me.  I just need to keep it up!  V and I are planning to go to a super early Zumba class tomorrow. I don’t know if I am ready to attempt such a thing.. but I guess I’ll give it a try!

Now my house has been invaded by 13 & 14-year-old girls. They are pretty entertaining. I wonder if my mom just sat there and laughed at me and my friends when I was 13.  The cutest part, is the Maniac trying to be one of the girls. She’s “playing” Wii with them. She has a mini controller that had candy in it at some point. I’m not sure whether she’s really onto the fact that she’s not actually playing.

I’m just sitting here listening to them have a good time. It’s so good for the Teen. I have a feeling that this is what most of my summer is going to be like.  I have issued an open invitation to her twin friends (they live 2 streets down from us) to come over any time. I know their mom works, so why not let them hang out?

Am I a glutton for punishment? maybe. But I know the Teen will love it.

Oh well.. I am going to go clip my coupons and find something to feed the children… and watch the American idol Finale!

  Hope you had a wonderful Wednesday! 🙂

Random thoughts from the weekend

It is the last Monday morning of the school year for us. Woo hoo!

It’s been so long since the Teen has had a true summer vacation, I’m not really sure what we are going to do with ourselves! She has been in  year round school since 2nd grade!  I’m kind of excited.. since we won’t have to worry about school for 2 solid months, we can actually go visit hubby while he’s traveling. (He’s supposed to be in Arizona for most of June.) Of course that means that he will either 1. Not be working out-of-town or 2. Be working too far away that we can’t drive.  We’ll see what happens with that!

Random thoughts from my weekend:

1. Hubby was home for all of 18 hours. He had a flight delay that caused him to miss his connection and left him stranded in Houston.  at least we got to see him for a little while.

2. As per his request, I made a “Trifecta of Bacon” for dinner Saturday night. Bacon wrapped meatloaf, bacon wrapped hot dogs and an experimental bacon-maple gravy.

3. The Teen went on her first excursion with friends for her twin BFF’s birthdays. They went to a small amusement park nearby. The girls’ mom drove them, and stayed with them of course. Hubby was freaking out about it far more than I was.

4. I got to hang out with my sister on Sunday. We havent seen her in a while. It was nice. I made some oh-so delicious Baked Potato Soup for lunch/dinner.  I think its our new tradition for her visits. Yummy! I ate some for lunch today too!

5. I randomly felt like eating brownies last night. So I made some from scratch, since I didn’t have any mix. I had some strawberry cheesecake ice cream on top. Also Yummy!  Although, not helping with my weight loss goals.

6. I read a trashy romance novel (not on my reading list) on Friday. I think you need read one every now and then.. its good for your soul.

7. I have crossed three things off of my to-do list for the day. I’m not feeling motivated enough to do much more than that at the moment.

8. Oh, and I have been saving my receipts from my grocery shopping and whatnot lately, and I figured out that (for the reciepts I have) from April and May, I have saved $379 in just coupons in that time. Not too shabby.

Oh well.. That’s all I have for now.  Hope you had a great weekend!

It’s okay to lie… So says the Attendance Office at School

My Teen had not missed any school this year.

When we were planning on going to Vegas to visit my BFF and see my hubby I gave her the option to skip a day of school.   But it was totally up to her. If she wanted to keep her perfect attendance we would just go around her schedule.  She has straight A’s and works really hard, and I think everyone deserves a “mental health day” as my mom used to call them.  

 She had no problem missing school, so off to Vegas we went! As things turned out, we left Thursday evening and came back late Monday night. 

As per her school’s policy, I called the attendance line and left a message that she was absent because we were out-of-town and she would be back Tuesday.  Let me just say that we did the same thing last year. The one day of school she missed was because we went to Vegas and I told them we were out-of-town too.

It seems that I needed to leave a better message.

It seems that I needed to lie.

I believe whole heartedly in honesty.  Yes, I will tell an occasional “white lie” but 99.9% of the time I just tell it like it is. Which I why I told the school we were out-of-town.  I also believe that you lie and say you are sick, you had a family emergency, or a death in the family- that odds are something to that effect will happen. Hence my telling the truth.

My Teen came home from school Tuesday afternoon, with a notice that she was assigned 2 days of “Saturday School” (aka saturday detention) because my telling the school we were “out-of-town” was not an excusable reason for an absence. I was livid. 

It also seems that I didn’t  thoroughly read the attendance policy at the beginning of the school year, or I didn’t remember what I read.  Whatever, I was still mad.

I called the school and gave the attendance lady a piece of my mind. According to her, they follow the regulations set by the state of California. That’s all fine and dandy, but last year when we did the same thing and I told the school we were out-of-town nothing happened.

So after I calmed down, we had 3 options.

1. Just don’t go and have 2 unexcused absences on her record.

2. Just go to the detention and do her time to get the absences excused.

3. Write a note on the back of the paper they sent home LYING that she was actually sick, even though they have a recorded message that says otherwise.

Seriously people. What example are you setting for our kids here?

The attendance lady seriously waited for no one to be in earshot of her and told me to write the lying note, and said I needed to leave “a better message” next time.

Let’s just lie and get out of trouble! Woo! Yea! Great message people!

 WTF. I have enough trouble trying to figure out when she’s lying to me, and she’s only been a teenager for 2 months!  I don’t need the school district reinforcing it!

We decided to do the right thing. Despite the fact that this whole debacle is my fault for not knowing. But now I know.

She did her 4 hours saturday morning. In her words “It was horrible.”  And she’s got another 4 hours to go this coming Saturday.  If nothing else, she will have had lots of time to work on her book report.

Oh, and its come to light that she may not be able to go on her class field trip since she was assigned 2 Saturdays of detention. Which, again is a load of crap. especially, since it wasnt for a behavioral problem.

We shall cross that bridge when we come to it, and believe me, if that is the case  i am going to take that one up with the Principal.   And if after fighting the good fight, if I lose… maybe she’ll be sick that day. Humph.

The Mystery of the Heavy Backpack

Here’s my dilemma on this chilly Monday morning…

One of the great mysteries of my life is why my dear daughters backpack always looks so incredibly heavy.  It just looks like it weighs 50 pounds, let alone watch her lift it and you realize it just might weigh that much.

Here’s the thing though- she doesn’t have huge text books to carry back and forth every day. Her school checks out a copy of each text book that she needs for her to keep at home. Each classroom has one set that they keep in the room for the students to use while they are there. Oh, and they also don’t have lockers, so she has to lug her seemingly 50 pound back pack around with her all day long.

Why is the bag so heavy then? My curiosity got the best of me this morning. So I made the mistake of looking inside before she left.

Let me first preface this with, I havent actually looked inside this abyss since I followed the smell and found a rotting moldy sandwich in her lunchbox over Christmas break. My first mistake was not looking in it since then. 

Now that I’ve said that- OMG  and WTF.

In addition to an amazingly unorganized mass of paper sticking out of her binder every which way imaginable… random crumpled up papers. PE clothes- unfolded, library books, two notebooks… an empty water bottle, a half empty (reusable) water bottle.. and the best part… are you ready for this?

1 mostly brown and mushy almost rotting apple,  plastic bag #1 containing: a smashed maybe half eaten sandwich, an almost rotting apple and an unopened pudding cup, plastic bag #2 containing: a non rotting apple, a sandwich that consisted of 2 pieces of bread and 2 slices of cheese still covered in plastic and a pudding cup. and finally plastic bag #3 containing her lunch for today.

SERIOUSLY? WTF!!?!?!?!?

When I questioned her about it this morning her answer was

“Sometimes I’m not hungry for lunch.”

So you just don’t eat all day? She very seldom comes home from school and says anything about being hungry, or wanting a snack or anything. She doesn’t say a single word about food. Ever.  She doesn’t eat until I get around to making dinner. And it’s completely normal for us to not eat until 7:00.  So, some days apparently she doesnt eat for 12 hours.

When I asked about being hungry and not eating anything after school she says “I’m not allowed to.” Really? Since when? Considering I make the rules. that’s a new one on me. I know we’ve had at least one converstation about if you are hungry- EAT. I’m never going to not let you eat.

She has this thing, prbably some form of a defense machanism,  to try to get out of being in trouble, or when she’s confronted with something she doesnt know the answer to.  She will either make something up, or remember something that I said like 6 years ago, and take it out of context to suit her needs at that moment.

Anyway- I just don’t  know what to make of this. Part of me doesn’t believe this “I’m not hungry” thing.  My gut says that something doesn’t feel right.  But on the other hand, if she was really trying to hide something, wouldnt she throw away the evidence?

I dont’ know what to think.

Any thoughts?

The Big 1-3! Part 3: Let’s Party!

Well, a Gleek-tastic time was had by all. I think I am fully recovered.. my livingroom has not. I’ll get it all cleaned up eventually.

So, Friday night, we hosted 4 of my Teen’s friends from school. They seemed to have a fantastic time! She was sooooooooooo excited! We got the hopped up on sugar and fed them pizza! The Slushie cupcakes were a big hit!

 Cupcakes, cookies, doritos, and candy!

Then they spent a couple of hours playing on the Wii. One of the girls brought the “Michael Jackson experience ” game. They danced around to MJ songs for a while then played “Just Dance 2” and danced some more! The best part was the Toddler just dancing right along with them! It was hilarious!

By the time they left, I was exhausted! And there was more to do in the morning!

Saturday was party #2 with my family and it was the “Gleek-tastic” extravaganza!

I pretty much went all out. Take a look:

 The “Gleek-tastic” banner

Top view of the Glee cake

The Glee Cake!
Cafeteria style lunch- Chicken nuggets, mini hamburgers, grilled Cheesus an TOTS! We even had “school lunch tray” plates.
I even made some high school-ish posters
The view of some decorations from the stairs

The best part of the whole day was that she had no idea about the Glee theme. I banished her to her room while I decorated. She came downstairs and was thrilled! That was what it was all about.

The surprises didn’t stop there. My BFF came from Vegas to surprise her. And if she hadn’t gotten enough from us already- (along with my BFF) got her the gift of all gifts…….

The Cruz Tablet.

And my devious little mind decided that she needed it wrapped in a real book. A real hollowed out book! HAHAHAHA! My dad took care of that part of the project.  It had to be a book that she’d have no interest in at all.

PC’s for Dummies- Windows 95

I was hoping for something in another language.. but that will do.

 
Turn to page 17!

She was so thrilled! And she wants to download about a million books!

The perfect gift for my bookworm who reads about 4 books at a time. 
Oh, and I think her other favorite gift was the Red Converse high tops (like they wore in the Superbowl episode of Glee) that my brother-in-law got her.
 
Everyone seemed to have a good time.  My Toddler and my niece had a blast playing together. My dad complained about the Glee playing on the tv all day, which was just kind of funny.
 
So..despite the Bieber-ific bathroom,  my new Teen had the best.birthday.ever.
 
I couldn’t have asked for more.
 
 
 

The Big 1-3! Part 1: Beib-her-bathroom!

I know I have a million things to do right now, but I wanted to share this while it is still making me giggle! 🙂

I mentioned in an earlier post that I thought it would be funny to Bieb-ify the birthday girls bathroom as her early morning birthday surprise, since I believe she is the only 12-year-old 13-year-old girl on the planet that does not swoon over Justin Bieber.  I have been teasing her a lot about taking her to see his movie “Never Say Never” since it opens today.   So last night, I put Operation: Bieb-her-bathroom into action!

Her bathroom door. It reads "Happy 12th Birthday AGAIN!" And the decorations were left over from her birthday last year.

Her mirrors.. what she saw as she walked in! The mirror says "Have a Bieberific Birthday!"

moving to the right... more Justin!

The shower doors... I put a purple table-cloth behind the doors. For some reason, I associate purple with the Bieb.

The back of the door... it's really 360 degrees of Bieber-ness!

And the last little bit..

Her early morning presents!

She had not idea what was in store for her when she went in to pee. SHe thought the stuff on the door was it! It was AWESOME! I couldn’t stop laughing! It was so hard to keep my poker face until she went inside. 

The look on her face was PRICELESS. Well worth the $10 I spent on Justin Bieber magazines.
 
She was super excited with her “I’m a Gleek” wristband and t-shirt!  Of course, she wore them to school!  And she’s been dying to read “Beastly” and the Glee novel. I bought just because.   I don’t know if I’ve ever mentioned that she is a total bookworm. Well, she’s a bookworm.  She reads and reads and reads and then reads some more.  She will read 2 or three books at a time, which I don’t understand, but whatever works for her.
 
She is going to be even more excited when she gets her big gift tomorrow!
We got her an eReader. Its pretty darn cool.  It’s more of a “tablet”… I wanted to get something that would be more functional than just for books.  Oh, and here’s he BEST PART….
 
We are going to wrap it in a hollowed out book. (compliments of my dad).
 
I’m so evil. But its going to be Legend…… wait for it…… ary!
 
I can’t wait!
 
Well.. I have to go make frosting,  then put it on the cake, pick up my hubby at the airport and then do all the other million things on my list!
 
Happy Friday!