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Mean Girl Down!

A few weeks ago I wrote about the anonymous crayon scrawled hate letter that I got in the mail. You can read it here if you have no idea what I’m talking about.

I think the drama is finally over. Whew!

It turns out that it was (most likely) not who I thought it was.

I kept it quiet for a few weeks. Then, in a sort of calculated move.. I told one person. Let’s call her “The Mouth” (hahaha).  I told her and she “swore on her children’s lives” that she wouldn’t tell a soul. I knew she would tell the Organizer, little did I realize she would tell EVERYONE.

One friday night, there was a Mamma’s Night Out, where 8 moms from the group gathered and had dinner. I did not go. (Thankfully) But my best friend in the group did. (Also thankfully.) It seems that in the middle of dinner, The mouth tells everyone about the letter and basically says “Which one of you did it?”  Then proceeds to throw the Organizer under the bus and say she did it.  After that, there was lots of talking crap about all the people who weren’t there.

So, the next morning, I wake up to a FB message from one of the other ladies saying how horrible she thought the letter was and she couldn’t believe someone would do that. I guess the cat was out of the bag.

After a series of phone calls and text messages with different people all day Saturday- One thing became increasingly clear. The Mouth was the one who seemed the most guilty.  She was quick to accuse everyone else, she kept bringing it up, and I was starting to see all the crap she was talking about everyone else.

Interesting.

I finally talked to the Organizer  Monday.

She said “do you know who I think did it?”

We both said “the mouth” at the same time.

After talking to the Organizer for quite a while, I decided to just confront the Mouth myself. Put an end to all this crazy drama nonsense.

And that’s what I did.

The next day, I stopped at her house. I rang the doorbell. She wasnt home. Just as I was pulling away from her house she got there.

I started by saying:

“I am done with all of this talking behind everyone’s back, drama bullshit. Did you write the letter??”

She was appalled that I would suggest such a thing. I personally believe that no one has ever called her on her crap before.

She “swears on her children’s lives” that she didn’t do it.

I said “just like you swore on their lives that you wouldn’t tell anyone about the letter?”

There was heated conversation after that. She swore she didn’t do it, but really, she’d never fess up. Not backed in a corner like that.

The whole thing ended by her yelling “I hope who ever did send it dies! I hope they die in a car accident!!!!”

Seriously. That is exactly what she said.

Then she closed her garage door in my face.

It was crazy. I felt a little bad for making her cry.. but really, her guilt was really becoming more obvious.

Of course, after that happened, she posted a message on the Groups message board about what a horrible person I am and how i showed up at her house yelling accusations at her. Whatever.  After that the Organizer kicked her out of the group.

And after people starting comparing notes, it became increasingly clear that the Mouth was really the root of a lot of things. She would talk about EVERYONE behind their backs, even her “closest friends.” And tell blatant lies too. I think the girl was pathological.

And all of her lies finally caught up with her all at the same time.

I think three people called her on the same day confronting her about things she said about them. Of course she denied everything. I guess we are all liars and not her.

I really hope the Mouth has learned some lessons through this whole debacle. I know I have.

My wish for the Mouth, is that when she moves out-of-state this summer, that she can start fresh, and really change her life and be a better person. For the sake of all her potential new friends and for her daughters.

I’m just glad its (hopefully) over. The organizer and I have had several really good talks.  And I feel like we are in a really good place right now. We are going to try to move forward.

But I’m still going to watch my back. 😉