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Getting back to “Normal”

It’s official.

The Teen is finally back to school today so the holiday season is finally over for us! Woo hoo! While it’s been nice having her around for three weeks, it’s good for her to get back to school! I think she missed it.

What I may not have mentioned is that my dear hubby has been home and not working pretty much as long as the Teen has been on break.  It’s wonderful that he’s been home that long.. way not great that he hasn’t been working.  And of course it seems that he filled something out wrong on an unemployment form, so that’s been held up.. (But I just talked to him, and they have supposedly straightened it out.)…so these last few weeks have not been easy for us.

But we are getting back to normal.

He started back to work last Thursday.

Wait- are you ready for this..?

He’s going to be working here for a whole, entire month! I don’t know the last time that happened! He can go to sleep in our bed, wake up, go to work and come home and have dinner as a family …. like a normal person!

I kind of forgot what that felt like.

It was seriously weird those first two days.  It was like the good ol’ days when he had a “normal” job, and we were a “normal” family.

Yes, we have created a “new normal” with his being gone all the time… and we’ve managed pretty okay over these last couple years.

But going back to the old way, is kind of refreshing. I think everyone needed this. Which also means it’s probably going to suck that much more the next time he goes out-of-town.

Oh, and the icing on our “normal” cake- my brother-in-law is working with him on  this job, and is going to be staying with us for a month! So it’s really a flash back!  The kids really miss him a lot. (Shhh.. don’t tell him, but I miss him too.)When I told the Maniac that he was coming, for three days  every time someone whet near the door she said “Is uncle here!?!?!”

He just got here yesterday, and first thing out of her mouth this morning, was “Is uncle still here?” I had to reassure her that he was just working with daddy and they would be home later. “Okay Mama.. let’s go to the airport and get them!”  It’s probably not good that she thinks we have to get daddy at the airport every time he comes home from work.

Oh well… Reality beckons… I have a huge mountain of laundry waiting for me, and a to do list a mile and a half long.

It’s going to be a busy day!

 

 

 

 

Remembering my Mother-in-law

You always hear horror stories about people’s terrible “Monster-in-laws.” And yes, I did have one of those once upon a time…. My ex-husbands Stepmother was quite a piece of work. But that is a story for another day.  

I never got to meet my Mother-in-law, and it breaks me heart.

 She passed away about 10 years ago, when my Teen was almost 3. She had Lupus. It was a few weeks after the boys along with their (now ex) wives moved to Las Vegas.

My husband was devastated.  I know he still is.

I’ve heard so many stories about her.  She was a pretty cool lady. She was a strong woman who worked very hard to raise two boys on her own. Every time my husband leaves a waitress a good tip, its in her honor. The Manaic is named in her honor.  (Well, her first name is what hubby’s name would have been, had he been a girl like she thought he was going to be. And her second middle name is her middle name. Does that make any sense?)

 I hope she would have liked me.  It kind of sucks that she only knew the Teen’s mother.  You, know she is such a stellar example of woman/motherhood. Now that I’m thinking about it, I don’t think that she liked the Baby Mama very much.  At least we would have had that in common. hahaha

I know that she would be very proud of the man her boy has grown into- An amazing father, a great husband, hard-working, funny, stubborn… the list goes on and on. 🙂   And my Brother-in-law too… despite his life having many moments that could be featured on the Jerry Springer Show.

It also makes me sad that she will never get to meet my little Manaic or my Brother-in-law’s kids, and hasn’t been able to watch the Teen grow into the amazing young woman she is today. Although I have no doubt she was blessed to be able to enjoy her granddaughter for the time she did.

I’m not sure that my husband knows how deeply I feel for her, even though I only know her through him.  I honestly have a hard time thinking about her without crying, let alone talking about her.  I’m sitting here crying as I type this.

 I just wanted to take a moment to remember her. . She was a very special woman, and she is greatly missed. 

 We love you Judy. ❤

Happy Mother’s Day!

My day of unplugging = almost an epic fail.

So, on  Saturday I tried to unplug for the day. I really did.

After my last post, I actually wrote another quick post for my other blog, and shut off the computer. That part was easy. I did not open my computer again until Sunday morning.

That pesky little computer, otherwise known as my iPhone, in my pocket on the other hand…   was amazingly hard to stay away from. 

I did fairly well most of the day.  I did hubby’s laundry, watch the Toddler run around outside for a while… helped her try to ride her bike, blew some bubbles… it was a little chilly, but it was nice. This was while my darling Hubby changed the oil in the truck.  (Yay for fresh oil! And she even got new tires saturday too!)

Anyway- then we decided that we were going to head to the drive in! To see “THE WANGO MOOO-VEEEEE” ! The Toddler was very very excited to go. I put her “in charge” of having Daddy get the pillows and blankets together while I ran to the dollar store for candy and popcorn.. and got some Taco Bell for dinner.

Can I just go off on a tangent about the drive in for a minute? I LOVE the Drive in. It is such a better deal than going to the regular movies- especially with a toddler.  Let’s do the math:

Admission: 

Regular movies: $12 a person x 3 = $36, not including the toddler                    Drive In: $7 a person x 3 =$21 and kids under 5 are FREE! Oh, and did I mention that is for TWO movies? Double Feature! YAY!

Snacks:

Regular Movies: An arm and a leg and your first-born.  Or at least $18 for 2 medium drinks and a large popcorn.                                                                                  Drive In: Bring your own!  I spent $19 at the dollar store for 3 20 oz bottles of soda, a 4 pack of microwave popcorn, fancy popcorn bags to put it in and an abundance of candy.

So, it was definitely the better way to go. We spent $50 for Dinner, two movies and more snacks than we could eat. I think that’s a good deal, and it was fun- once the Toddler fell asleep that is. Oh, and we saw Rango and Red Riding Hood. Rango was eh. Red Riding Hood was pretty good. I think it was trying too hard to be twilighty though. I was really amused by the fact that Red Riding Hood’ s dad was played by Billy Burke who plays Bella’s dad in the Twilight Saga.  🙂

Anyway- back to being unplugged.

We were in the truck on our way to the drive in and my phone dinged that little sound it makes when I get a text. (I knew I should have just shut the phone OFF.)You know the one… you hear it everywhere… any movie or tv show that has iPhones has that sound.  I looked at it.

It was a status update from Facebook from my Brother in law, or his ex girlfriend… I can’t remember which one it was that time. They were having some serious passive-aggressive thing going on about custody of an iPod and silverware and it was all pretty darn hilarious. I don’t know why one didn’t just unfriend the other already. They were blaming each other for being childish, or “putting their shortcomings” on the other… whatever. They were both being pretty childish if you ask me. At least my brother-in-law finally unfriended her yesterday. So now the unfriend-er is asking me about the unfriend-ee’s Facebook posts. So funny. Cracks.me.up!

That was it. That post has me glued back to the screen. I posted a picture of an excited toddler with her “pock-corn” in hand and I was thoroughly plugged in again.

 Oh well. I made it a few hours. I guess it wasnt an EPIC FAIL per say…. but it was a FAIL none-the-less.

Next time- I am shutting off the phone.

why do people suck?

I’m kind of irritated, and I’m not sure what the best course of action is.

Do you remember my last post about the New Girl  (My Brother in law’s former Girlfriend)? we had become friends and when she left town she swore we’d stay friends and talk all the time, and she “pinky swore” that she’d come see me next time she was out here.

Well, she is coming out this weekend.  I highly doubt I will see her. She’s made it very public on Facebook that she’s coming here.  I believe that she is staying with her friend that lives about 30 miles from me.  According to her latest FB status, they are hanging out tomorrow, going to a music/tattoo convention-festival thingy Saturday and then going to Disneyland on Sunday.

Here are my 2 problems.

1. A couple of weeks after she moved, she texted me and asked if she could take my Teen to Disneyland. I said sure. I have not heard a word about her going since that text.  Did she forget? Does she not want to take her anymore?  It’s a good thing that I didn’t tell my Teen about this invitation. She would have been SO excited, only to be hugely disappointed. I do not take kindly to people disappointing my kid.

2. A couple days ago she asked me to watch her kid if she can’t get into the Tattoo/music convention-festival thing. Yea.. she really did. I highly doubt that she would actually bring her over, since I offered to watch her a million times and she always got weird about it. And I googled the convention-festival thingy this morning and it said all ages are welcome. So I guess I don’t have to worry about that.

So, my dilemma is that do I question her original Disneyland offer? Do I read her the riot act about disappointing my kid? Or do I just let it go? I don’t really have $100 extra bucks to send her to the happiest place on earth at the moment anyway, and I’m sure that she’s not going to pay for her to go. 

 I guess I’m just sad that I thought she really could have been my friend. And now I’m just someone to play “Words with friends” with, since that seems to be the only contact we have anymore.  Maybe I’m just too nice, and just expect people to be the kind of friend that I try to be. I would have watched her kid, despite my irritation at the situation.  I don’t know. It just really upsets me. And I guess it really shouldnt. I just don’t know.

sigh. Why do people suck?

How I Met Your Father…

For my girls…

Ever since I saw your face,  Nothing in my life has been the same.  I walk around and sing your name, without you my world would end. 

Yes, that is from “Girlfriend” by NSYNC. And yes, I  am aware of how corny that is. But it is the song I most relate to the day I met my wonderfully amazingly fantastic husband. And how I feel about my girls now that I’m really thinking about it. 🙂

It was 9 years ago today that I first saw his face, and he changed my life.  It was the day after his birthday in 2002.  I had been living in Las Vegas for about a year and a half.  I had a job I liked, had recently moved in with my BFF at the time, and had been seeing a big fat jerk boy who wasnt very nice to me, and had recently told me to “find  someone who could be the kind of boyfriend” that I wanted.  It seems that I took his advice.

My friends and I had been going to this bar every friday night for months.  It was called Pink E’s! It was a fun place off the strip, they had pink pool tables, pink booths, and they were known for playing 80’s hair band music. If I remember correctly, the walls in the bathrooms were covered with naked pictures… Guys in the ladies room and girls in the mens room.  They also had a lot of those 80’s hair bands (that were still trying to hang onto their careers) playing live on the weekends.  I loved it there.

It was very sad when it closed.

We used to hang out in “our booth,” have a few drinks, listen to the music, people watch and just have a great time.   That friday night started out just like any other  We planted ourselves in our booth. were actually waiting for some friends,who were in town for the weekend, to meet up with us.

We had noticed this boy walk past our booth who had his septum pierced.  Back then, it wasnt as common of a piercing as it is now, so we immediately noticed it.

Not actually his nose!

Then we notice that the boy with the nose ring was really cute.  I didn’t think much else of it right then. (He had been walking back and forth past our booth in an effort to get me to notice him.)

He was there with his brother and a friend, celebrating his birthday.  They happened upon Pink E’s! on a night where Jeannette Lee (a female pool champion) was doing an exhibition/meet and greet thing. She is known as “the black widow.” My brother-in-law is a huge pool guy, so he was super excited to see her do her stuff.

I was sitting in our booth facing the crowd for the exhibition. I was on the phone with my then roommate. I looked up and realized that the cute boy with the nose ring was staring at me.

I smiled at him.  he smiled back.

A little while later,  I realized that he was gone.  NOOOOOO!  

He came back! Whew! (They had gone to get food at Del Taco.)

Next time I saw him, he was sitting in a booth a few feet away from us. Obviously, wanting me to come talk to him.  I was probably as chicken as he was. Myfriends were making a big, loud deal about it, which was making it hard to just go over there without it being a big scene. So I didn’t.

Then, once again – HE WAS GONE.

I swore to myself that if he came back, I was going to talk to him.

A little while later,  he came back. YES!!!! 

They actually had left for good, then he convinced his brother to take him back. Thank goodness.

So after they miraculously returned,  they were about 4 feet away from us, and just kind of stood there.

Again, my friends were making a big loud deal about it, so I made an equally big loud deal about me being mad about them being loud and I went and sat at the bar by myself.

Then his brother sat down next to me, and bought me a drink.  He did it just to prove the point that he could talk to me. I had absolutely no interest in whatever small talk he was making with me. My eye was on the cute boy with the nose ring.

And my friend was mad that he was talking to me, since she thought he was cute. (Sidenote- that particular friend is the reason I no longer let him date my friends.)

So he sat down next to his brother, and then we finally got introduced.

While  his brother was talking to me, I kept looking around him to see the cute boy with the nose ring. Around front… around back… and finally….

“Did that hurt?” That broke the ice.

Once we started talking, we really didn’t stop. At some point his brother left. And when I say left, I mean completely ditched him. We didn’t even notice.

We sat at that bar talking until about 5 in the morning.  Which is very easy to do in Las Vegas, since the bars don’t close- ever.  He told me about the Tween in the first ten minutes we were talking. She was about to turn 4.  We discussed our crazy ex-spouses, our jobs, and pretty much everything else you could imagine.

Once we were ready to leave we realized he bad been ditched.  I ended up driving him home. Turned out they lived pretty close to me.  When I dropped him off, I gave him my number, and he just gave me a peck on the lips.

I  couldn’t stop thinking about the cute boy with the nose ring. I was kicking myself for not getting his number.  I scoured the phone book for his number to no avail… (turns out the phone was in their old room mates name.)

Then he finally called. It was Tuesday night. (A nd seriously his brother made him wait three days to call me. Boys.) I freaked  out!  YAY! We made a plan for him to call me again on Thursday, and we would do something on friday.

And that we did.  We have been inseparable since. 

 We celebrated our 8th Wedding Anniversary on New Years Day.

And I love my cute boy with the nose ring (okay, he doesn’t actually have it any more… I kind of miss it actually) even more than I did back then.  In fact I love him more every day. 

And I know that even if that night hadn’t unfolded the way it did, if he hadn’t convinced his brother to bring him back, I know without a doubt, that somehow…. some way… we still would have found each other.

Let the birthdays begin!

It is a new year, and another round of birthdays officially starts today!

I say a round of birthdays because,

Hubby’s birthday is today 1/10

The Tween’s birthday is 2/11

The Toddler’s birthday is 3/12

My sister’s birthday is 4/13

And my brother-in-law ruins the pattern by being 5/19.

I think its pretty nifty. (When we had the toddler, we really wanted her to be born on the 12th. We almost didn’t make it, since she was born at 11:24PM.) Although,  sometimes I REALLY have to think about the dates when asked about one of their birthdays.

Anyway…

Today is my wonderful hubby’s 35th birthday!

Sadly, he is on his way to work in Las Vegas for the week.

We did have a little celebration for him last night. I made fish tacos for him, with what was left of his Alaskan Halibut. I had to cook it since I discovered that the freezer was unplugged and a bunch of stuff thawed out… mainly the fish.  So I cooked it all and froze what he didn’t eat. (I don’t like fish. I ate leftover meatloaf.)

I also made him German Chocolate cupcakes.  That’s his favorite. I filled them with the pecan coconut frosting for a little surprise! He loved them!

I also made cupcakes so that he could take them with him, but naturally he forgot them. And I was half asleep when he left and I forgot about them too. Oh well.. I guess that means more for us.  Or not… since my waistline does not need to eat any more cupcakes!

Happy Birthday to my hubby! I love you! XOXO

Good bye, New Girl.

Honestly, I’m kinda sad today.

In addition to my just feeling blah, a flare up of the terrible two’s, hubby being gone (I’ve talked to him a total of  6 minutes since Monday. Sigh.), my best friend decided to postpone her visit a week and my new and only friend (other than my sister) here in California is moving back to Las Vegas today.

My Brother-in-law and the New Girl broke up.

Strangely enough the New Girl and I have become pretty good friends over the last couple months. If you remember from my previous posts about her, she and I didn’t really hit it off the first time he dated her 8 years ago. 

This time we gave each other a chance , found some common ground and have hopefully created a real friendship. I guess only time will tell if that is true.  That is,  If we stay in touch now that she’s gone back home.

I was really hoping to see her before she left, but that didn’t happen.  I’m not sure whether it was just because it just didn’t work out, or whether she really just didn’t want to see me.  I offered to help her pack or whatever she needed at least 5 times, and she never accepted my offer.

Last night she replied to a text that I sent her that her best friend was going to try to fly down to help her load the truck (today) but she couldnt, so the New Girl was going to have to do it all by herself.  Which I found strange after making so many offers to help. I’m not sure whether her saying that was just a plea for help, or what.  I was slightly offended by it actually.  It was all I could do not to offer to help her. Not that I could have anyway, since our funds are limited this week, and I dont’ have the extra gas money to go down there.

And a few days ago it was “Oh, I’ll see you before I go no matter what.” and now she’s on her way back and isn’t stopping by. Which for the record, is on her way. I got a text that she “pinky swears we’ll hang out when she comes back next month.”  I mean,  I understand that she’s got a trailer on her truck that she’s not used to, and she doesn’t want to drive somewhere she may have to back up…  I really do get it…. but at the same time, if she really wanted to she would.

I’m just disappointed.  😦  

Which, is so weird to think about, considering how we started.

I wish her the best. I know that they are better off apart. 

Good Bye,  New Girl.

I’ll really miss you…

and Our late night UNO games and texting, cupcakes, coffee, shopping.. the way old people gawk at your tattoos in Starbucks… the combination pizza hut and taco bell… and knowing that someone really understood how suckish it is with hubby gone all the time since they were going through it too.  

 I hope we stay friends…. if nothing else we got each other out of the deal! 🙂

I hope to see you soon.