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Thursday night babysitting blues


It’s 9:45pm on Thursday night.
I’m struggling to stay awake.

I’m babysitting.
The kids are still going strong.
You’d think it was 9:45AM.

I can’t believe any of them are still awake. Especially mine. She was up at 7 and didn’t take a nap. I need a nap.

Or coffee. Coffee would be good fan-freaking-tastic.

Hopefully my friend will be home soon. But it could still be a while. She’s in on a date with her husband. I don’t blame them for staying out. I would too if given the opportunity.

Wish me luck. Or at least a little wish for any one of them to sit still long enough to fall asleep.

UPDATE: it’s now 11:20pm.
One down. Two to go.

Oh, and there was poop.
It’s been quite a while since I changed a poopy child. I definitely don’t miss that.

You know it’s late when the cats I never see come out from their hiding places.



So much for the “new” sofa

There comes a time when your new thing isn’t new anymore.

That thing is our new sofa.

We’ve been super careful around it.. No one is allowed to eat or drink on it. To keep it “new” for as long as possible.

Then you hear..

“Mama, I threw up on the new couch.”

Which turns out to be not as horrible as you imagined… It cleans up quite well and doesn’t leave any weird marks.

Then you hear…

“Mama, I cut the new couch.”

Sigh.. It’s definitely not new anymore.

Hi. Remember me?

It’s me.. the long, long lost not-so-wicked Step Mom.

I can’t believe how long its been since I posted anything.

I think about it all the time, and I haven’t really had any time¬†or inclination in ages.

I don’t even know where to start…

The kids-

Well, the Teen is loving high school. Yes, she’s in high school now, and loving every minute of it. She is on spring break this week, and can’t wait to go back. I think I have the only kid in America that loves high school. Shes doing pretty well in her classes. We’ve had some issues with her grades this year, but she seems to be doing much better this semester.¬† Things are pretty much the same with her “mother”. She hasn’t spoken to her in about 3 years now. The woman did sort of rear her ugly head on the Teen’s birthday.. but I think that was only because I told her to.

THe “Mother” had posted on her Facebook page “Happy Birthday to my beautiful and wonderful Teen.” I saw RED when I saw the post. I don’t know where she gets off trying to pretend that she has any relationship with her daughter…. I wanted to post a comment on the status, but I can’t stoop to her level.. so I sent her a private message that said “I think your birthday wishes might be more effective if you put them somewhere she might actually see them. A text might be fine.” Naturally, she didnt have her phone number so I had to give that to her… and she did text and call. But the Teen was far from impressed.¬† And she hasnt really heard from her since.¬† Whatever.

The Maniac just turned 5. She has been in Preschool since August and LOVES it! She is very sad that she is going to have to leave her teacher and go to Kindergarten. I get to register her for Kindergarten next week.. which I’m freaking out about a little. Its crazy that she’s going to be in real school. I try not to think about it all that much… my brain may explode. ūüėČ

As for me.. hubby & I celebrated our 10th anniverasry back in January. Which is very cool, and kind of crazy. He has not been traveling very much lately which has been awesome.

The last post I did write, I told you about my business. That is the main reason I have not had a moment to do anything. I have been busier than I ever dreamed I could be! It is amazing.

Business really started picking up in July & August.. and it has been NONSTOP since September. I don’t know how it got it all done. I’m finally in a place where I dont have a ton of orders hanging over my head this week.¬†I have a few, but nothing urget or super huge. Its been a welcome change. I love it! I sort of complain about it sometimes, but I¬†do love¬†every mnute of it!

I don’t¬†think my house enjoys it.. since It has kind of gone to hell in a handbasket since I got¬†busy. I think I need to take a week off¬†for spring¬†cleaning. I’ll get it done somehow. ūüôā

So, that is that. I can’t promise I will be¬†super regular in my posting.. but I am going to try to post¬†again in less than a year! ūüôā

Hope you are well!

Saturday Night!

It’s Saturday night. It’s getting pretty crazy up in here. Okay, not at all.

I am sitting on the couch catching up on some DVR stuff. Hubby is snoozing on the recliner, and the girls are watching TV in the other room.

We are celebrating my birthday this weekend. it’s actually next weekend, but sadly my hubby will be away working. ūüė¶ I’m sad… but at least we can have some birthday fun this weekend.

We took the kids to the pumpkin patch today! It was fun.. far more expensive than you would think, picking three pumpkins would be, but its all about the experience, right?

We took the wagon ride around the farm, went to the petting zoo & fed the goats, managed to not get lost in the corn maze, and picked our pumpkins. It was fun. The maniac had a great time, and managed to carry her pumpkin most of the way to pay for it.

Tonight, we are going to go have a birthday dinner. I got a free dinner for my birthday from Black Angus Steakhouse for joining their e-club, so we are going to use that coupon! I’ve also gotten birthday emails from Chili’s (Free dessert), Lonestar (Free appetizer) and Sephora (A¬†free philosophy body wash.)

Woo hoo for my birthday!

I’m not sure what we are going to do tomorrow… but it will be something birthday-rific!! ūüôā

Well, I’m going to go take a shower and get pretty for dinner.

Hope everyone is having a great weekend! ūüôā

1 year, 1 month, 23 days….

After 1 year, 1 month and 23 days… that woman¬†who gave birth to the Teen finally crawled out from under her rock last night.

She sent me a Facebook message.

It was completely self-centered, and poorly spelled. (I hate it when people type messages like that in text short hand.. You= U, and = N, am = M etc… seriously, how much longer could it really take you to spell everything out?)

She claims to “miss her very much.”


“wants to start writing her very soon.”

I don’t buy it.¬† I think she had a momentary pang of guilt.

Oh, and I almost forgot my personal favorite:

“I hope she is not facing some of the things I have had to face in my teen years.”

Well, if you were abandoned by your mother .. then yes, she’s going through that.¬† Otherwise, I doubt it.

Give me a break.

I am going to tell her about herself this time. I’m done being nice, I’m done just letting her keep hurting her.¬† If she wants to truly make an effort, then it will be up to the Teen to agree to it. But there will be clear expectations put on her.¬† And with the baby due in a few weeks, I have a hard time believing that she’s going to pull it off.¬†

But before I do anything, I’m going to talk to the Teen about it. See what she wants me to do. Maybe she wants to tell her off herself.¬† My dear hubby didn’t really have anything to say about it when I read him the message.¬† He’s so helpful sometimes. ūüėČ

Well.. wish me luck. I’m going to talk to her after school..and in the mean time I’m going to work on composing my thoughts on the matter.

And make soup. It’s definitely a soup kind of day.


Saturday Afternoon at LACMA

On Saturday, I surprised the Teen by taking her to LACMA (Los Angeles County Museum of Art; and it’s pronounced “lack-ma”) to see the Tim Burton Exhibit. My sister met us there too!

She was really excited! She likes Tim Burton a lot, and was “dying” to go. (Espeically once she saw the episode of Cupcake Wars where they made thier display for the opening of the exhibit.)

You can read a little about the exhibit HERE.

Cameras and cell phones were forbidden in the exhibit, so I didn’t¬†get to take any pictures of anything. I would have snuck a few but there were soooo¬†many people and many cranky security guards.¬† It was very interesting to see his sketches and other art work. I didn’t¬†get to see a lot of it, since I was trying to keep the Maniac entertained¬†and remotely quiet. I must say that was quite a challenge.

After the Tim Burton portion of our day, we wandered over to the La Brea Tar Pits. The first time my sister took the Teen there a few years ago, she didn’t¬†realize that they were real. I had never been there before. We didn’t go to the museum or anything… I don’t think a certain someone would have been up for that.¬† It was kind of cool to see though.

Then we had some lunch at Baja Fresh and we went back to the museum to look at some more art. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a real Picasso before. It was pretty cool.

I also thought the new Monet/Lichtenstein: Rouen¬†Cathedrals exhibit was interesting.¬† You can read about that HERE.¬† I would have to say that Monet is my favorite artist. (Do you say artist? Painter? Impressionist?) I have a few prints of his work hanging up. Waterlilies is my favorite… I know there are a bunch of them.. my very favorite is the one that (when I saw it and it could still be there) was at The Carnegie is Pittsburgh.

Anyway- Here are a few shots of some art that you were allowed to photograph:

My apologies to the artists, since I did not take note of who these works were by.

Here’s some art we got into literally:

And finally… we learned a little about the Chinese Zodiac.¬†

I am an Ox, The Teen is a Tiger, The Maniac is a Rat and my Sister is a Horse.


This one's for you Chickmommy!

We had a pretty good day.

We only got yelled at by security 4 times… no one fell in the fountain or broke any priceless works of art.¬† I call that successful.

Next time we go, I’m not taking the 3-year-old. ūüėČ
And on our way home, we got to swing by the airport and pick up my hubby! Definitely the best part of the day.

Did she just call my 3-year-old a bully?

As most of you know, if you read this ramblings from my brain on any sort of regular basis, my dear Maniac is three and a half.

She’s bigger than all the other three-year-olds in our play group ¬†in the world! She is off the charts for her age. And people tend to forget that despite the fact that she is the size of the average 5-year-old, she’s only three.

She can get a little¬†aggressive when she’s playing with other kids, she has pushed and hit, taken toys away, and one time she even¬†bit one of her little friends.

She doesn’t mean any harm. She’s not doing it to be mean or just to pick on the littler kids. She’s just three. She doesn’t have other kids to play with during the day.. she just has me. She’s still learning the ropes of playing and interacting with her peers.

That being said… the person who I thought was my closest friend here, had been acting really strange for the last month or so- basically just not talking to me unless she had to.¬† I finally had the opportunity to confront her about it on Tuesday. Her reasoning for just not talking to me:

“The Maniac is a bully, and you don’t do enough to stop her.”

Wow.  Ouch.

My first reaction was that I know she can be rough.. but I’m working on it.

After thinking about it for a few days, I’ve come to the realization that it’s not fair to brand her a “”BULLY”. That’s a really strong word.¬† That makes you think of intimidation and malicious intent, preying on the weak.¬†¬†

She’s just a little girl who is trying to figure stuff out.¬† Like I said, she doesn’t have other kids to play and fight with all day.. she just has me and (when she’s not in school) the Teen.¬† She has to learn somehow. So she gets mad and hits someone. or bites them (which I’m pretty sure is where this whole thing started.) or takes a toy away… whatever…¬† It could happen to any kid by any kid. That doesn’t make¬†her “the Bully.”

As for the “You don’t do enough to stop it” I’ve been thinking a lot about that too.¬† I¬†definitely feel like she is¬†attacking my parenting. Theres a really fine line between being helpful and being a¬†judgmental¬†jerk. I would never judge her parenting decisions. You have to do what you have to do.¬† And truth be told, I have witnessed¬†¬†a couple of things¬†that¬†I would never do, but I would never call her out on… unless of course the kids were truly in danger.

Yes, my husband kindly pointed out a week or two ago that maybe I give the Maniac too many chances to get her to stop doing stuff. I’ve been working on that. And I have instituted an absolute no hitting policy. You hit/bite = time out. No exceptions.¬† We’ve also been talking about what it means to do nice things and mean things, as well as what to do when you feel angry that doesn’t involve touching other people.¬† It’s going to take some time… but I know¬†she’ll ¬†get it.

She has actually been quite good on the last two playdates we were on. So there ūüėõ .

Maybe I didn’t reprimand her to her liking because I was with a bunch of women that I don’t know very well. Come on,¬†you know as well I as do that you¬†don’t yell at the kids like you normally would in front of strangers or people you aren’t 100% comfortable with… mostly because you don’t want them judging you, or thinking you are a horrible parent.

Be realistic-¬†if you have ever been to a playgroup… all the:

“Come on honey, we don’t _____________” in the sweetest tone ever…

You know they most likely don’t talk to the kids at home. You know there’s some yelling going on there… maybe I’m wrong… but in my experience… when there are kids they eventually make you yell no matter how hard you try not to.

Anyway- that’s what I’ve been dealing with this week. Now I have to decide whether I need to just let it go, or say something to her about the unfairness of labeling her a Bully.¬† I will probably just let it go… it’s not worth the energy to worry about it… she’s going to think what she wants anyway no matter what I say.

I just have to show her that she’s¬†anything but a¬†bully.