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Hi. Remember me?

It’s me.. the long, long lost not-so-wicked Step Mom.

I can’t believe how long its been since I posted anything.

I think about it all the time, and I haven’t really had any time or inclination in ages.

I don’t even know where to start…

The kids-

Well, the Teen is loving high school. Yes, she’s in high school now, and loving every minute of it. She is on spring break this week, and can’t wait to go back. I think I have the only kid in America that loves high school. Shes doing pretty well in her classes. We’ve had some issues with her grades this year, but she seems to be doing much better this semester.  Things are pretty much the same with her “mother”. She hasn’t spoken to her in about 3 years now. The woman did sort of rear her ugly head on the Teen’s birthday.. but I think that was only because I told her to.

THe “Mother” had posted on her Facebook page “Happy Birthday to my beautiful and wonderful Teen.” I saw RED when I saw the post. I don’t know where she gets off trying to pretend that she has any relationship with her daughter…. I wanted to post a comment on the status, but I can’t stoop to her level.. so I sent her a private message that said “I think your birthday wishes might be more effective if you put them somewhere she might actually see them. A text might be fine.” Naturally, she didnt have her phone number so I had to give that to her… and she did text and call. But the Teen was far from impressed.  And she hasnt really heard from her since.  Whatever.

The Maniac just turned 5. She has been in Preschool since August and LOVES it! She is very sad that she is going to have to leave her teacher and go to Kindergarten. I get to register her for Kindergarten next week.. which I’m freaking out about a little. Its crazy that she’s going to be in real school. I try not to think about it all that much… my brain may explode. 😉

As for me.. hubby & I celebrated our 10th anniverasry back in January. Which is very cool, and kind of crazy. He has not been traveling very much lately which has been awesome.

The last post I did write, I told you about my business. That is the main reason I have not had a moment to do anything. I have been busier than I ever dreamed I could be! It is amazing.

Business really started picking up in July & August.. and it has been NONSTOP since September. I don’t know how it got it all done. I’m finally in a place where I dont have a ton of orders hanging over my head this week. I have a few, but nothing urget or super huge. Its been a welcome change. I love it! I sort of complain about it sometimes, but I do love every mnute of it!

I don’t think my house enjoys it.. since It has kind of gone to hell in a handbasket since I got busy. I think I need to take a week off for spring cleaning. I’ll get it done somehow. 🙂

So, that is that. I can’t promise I will be super regular in my posting.. but I am going to try to post again in less than a year! 🙂

Hope you are well!

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Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas!

It’s 5:45 am here on the west coast. Being completely exhausted, I’m having a hard time sleeping. This is like the 3rd time I’ve been up since going to sleep at midnight. I guess the fact that I can’t breathe is probably not helping matters at all.

I know that a certain little Maniac is probably going to be up before we know it! She didn’t go to bed until about 11:45! Of course, she did sleep the whole way home from my brothers (about an hour and a half) and woke up as soon as we pulled in the driveway.

I am so excited for her to open her gifts! The Teen too!

I was kind of mean, and wrapped them all individually and then put them all in one big box. So they each have an identical big box. LOL I have no doubt the the face the teen will make at me. Hahahahaha My dad (the master of the Christmas wrapping codes. He would always use some crazy code to identify our gifts..like our latitude & longitude, binary code, or even the airports close to our houses!) shook my hand at my wrapping! Haha! The apple doesn’t fall far from his tree!

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The best present of all hides in this package….

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I am REALLY excited about it! I won’t tell you what it is yet… But the Maniac has been asking for one since October and this was mine when I was a kid.
🙂

I wish you a wonderful, blessed Merry Christmas!

Thanksgiving

Happy the-day-after Thanksgiving!

It was a busy, but very nice day for us! My parents and sister were here. My hubby is home for a whole week!

I spent a lot of time yesterday thinking about all that I am thankful for:

-my wonderful husband
-my crazy wonderful kids
– my amazing parents
-my sister
-my brother
-my brother-in-law
-my nieces and nephews
-my 2 bff’s
-all of my friends new and old and on FB 🙂
– that my husband has a job, even though it takes him away from us quite often
– that my husband has a job that allows me to stay at home with the kids
– the roof over our heads and the food on the table
– our dog
– health

Those are the important ones anyway.

I hope everyone had as wonderful a day as we did.

Happy Thanksgiving!

1 year, 1 month, 23 days….

After 1 year, 1 month and 23 days… that woman who gave birth to the Teen finally crawled out from under her rock last night.

She sent me a Facebook message.

It was completely self-centered, and poorly spelled. (I hate it when people type messages like that in text short hand.. You= U, and = N, am = M etc… seriously, how much longer could it really take you to spell everything out?)

She claims to “miss her very much.”

and

“wants to start writing her very soon.”

I don’t buy it.  I think she had a momentary pang of guilt.

Oh, and I almost forgot my personal favorite:

“I hope she is not facing some of the things I have had to face in my teen years.”

Well, if you were abandoned by your mother .. then yes, she’s going through that.  Otherwise, I doubt it.

Give me a break.

I am going to tell her about herself this time. I’m done being nice, I’m done just letting her keep hurting her.  If she wants to truly make an effort, then it will be up to the Teen to agree to it. But there will be clear expectations put on her.  And with the baby due in a few weeks, I have a hard time believing that she’s going to pull it off. 

But before I do anything, I’m going to talk to the Teen about it. See what she wants me to do. Maybe she wants to tell her off herself.  My dear hubby didn’t really have anything to say about it when I read him the message.  He’s so helpful sometimes. 😉

Well.. wish me luck. I’m going to talk to her after school..and in the mean time I’m going to work on composing my thoughts on the matter.

And make soup. It’s definitely a soup kind of day.

 

Saturday Afternoon at LACMA

On Saturday, I surprised the Teen by taking her to LACMA (Los Angeles County Museum of Art; and it’s pronounced “lack-ma”) to see the Tim Burton Exhibit. My sister met us there too!

She was really excited! She likes Tim Burton a lot, and was “dying” to go. (Espeically once she saw the episode of Cupcake Wars where they made thier display for the opening of the exhibit.)

You can read a little about the exhibit HERE.

Cameras and cell phones were forbidden in the exhibit, so I didn’t get to take any pictures of anything. I would have snuck a few but there were soooo many people and many cranky security guards.  It was very interesting to see his sketches and other art work. I didn’t get to see a lot of it, since I was trying to keep the Maniac entertained and remotely quiet. I must say that was quite a challenge.

After the Tim Burton portion of our day, we wandered over to the La Brea Tar Pits. The first time my sister took the Teen there a few years ago, she didn’t realize that they were real. I had never been there before. We didn’t go to the museum or anything… I don’t think a certain someone would have been up for that.  It was kind of cool to see though.

Then we had some lunch at Baja Fresh and we went back to the museum to look at some more art. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a real Picasso before. It was pretty cool.

I also thought the new Monet/Lichtenstein: Rouen Cathedrals exhibit was interesting.  You can read about that HERE.  I would have to say that Monet is my favorite artist. (Do you say artist? Painter? Impressionist?) I have a few prints of his work hanging up. Waterlilies is my favorite… I know there are a bunch of them.. my very favorite is the one that (when I saw it and it could still be there) was at The Carnegie is Pittsburgh.

Anyway- Here are a few shots of some art that you were allowed to photograph:

My apologies to the artists, since I did not take note of who these works were by.

Here’s some art we got into literally:

And finally… we learned a little about the Chinese Zodiac. 

I am an Ox, The Teen is a Tiger, The Maniac is a Rat and my Sister is a Horse.

 

This one's for you Chickmommy!

We had a pretty good day.

We only got yelled at by security 4 times… no one fell in the fountain or broke any priceless works of art.  I call that successful.

Next time we go, I’m not taking the 3-year-old. 😉
 
And on our way home, we got to swing by the airport and pick up my hubby! Definitely the best part of the day.

Suspicions Confirmed. Ugh.

So, I’ve been trying really hard to stop obsessing about all this stupid psycho-people drama in my life. I’m not a fan of the drama. Don’t get me wrong.. I don’t mind sitting back and watching other people’s drama, but I don’t like it invading my life.  Ugh. I really just have to let it go already.

Anyway-  today I have drama of a slightly different nature.

My suspicions have been confirmed.

The Teen’s mother (and I use the word mother very loosely… I’ve started referring to her as “that woman.”)  is indeed pregnant.  UGH.

She so kindly posted a picture of her “baby bump” today on Facebook.

Awesome. Thanks.

Now the problem is how and when do I break the news to the Teen?

I don’t think she’s going to take it well. I sure wouldn’t, and I don’t expect anything less.

How would you feel if you hadn’t heard from your so-called mother for over a year and then one day you find out she’s going to give birth to another half-sibling that you’ll never know…. and she couldn’t be bothered to call and tell you herself.

Man Alive. What is wrong with this woman???

I just don’t get it. Since I’ve found out for sure, I’ve been doing a little research about adopting her as my own. I’ve wanted to do it for a while now, and I think we need to make it happen. Well, that is of course if she wants me to.  I think we could probably do it without a lawyer, as long as that woman agrees to terminate her parental rights without a fight. Aside from a lawyer, the most expensive thing I’ve found so far is the social worker investigation/visit.  I found a family lawyer that had a pretty good section about step parent adoptions, maybe a free consultation would be worth the trip. I need to talk to hubby of course. I haven’t even told him the news about that woman.

Oh well… enough about that! I hope everyone is having a great weekend! I’ll post more tomorrow about ours! I finally got to meet my could-be-future-sister-in-law. Did I even mention my Brother-in-law has a new girlfriend? Well, he does. LOL 😉

But that’s for tomorrow! Enjoy your Labor Day!

🙂

 

 

 

I need to shake off the crazy and move on.

I’ve reached my limit of dealing with crazy people for the day. 

I have hit psycho overload.

Yes, I admit, I did open the can of worms. But it was with the best of intentions and I was just trying to get some answers since I am baffled.

As I mentioned yesterday the Psycho part of my “The Good, the weird and the Psycho” day is my Brother-in-law’s Baby Mama.

We have had quite a volatile relationship, I’ve known her for a little over 7 years. We’ve had our share of ups and many many MANY downs.  She’s always been on a roller coaster of being like my sister and then finding weird reasons to hate me. I really don’t get it. Other than she’s had a kind of rough life, and like I said yesterday the apple doesn’t fall far from the psycho tree.  She had a baby when she was 15 and I don’t think sometimes she’s matured beyond that.

She has quite the history of violence in her life, lots of lies and manipulation, drinking and drugs.. the list really goes on and on.  She’s married now, and has 3 kids and is living a pretty normal life. From what I’ve seen and heard I thought she was really a new person and had changed a lot.

But as they say: The more things change, the more they stay the same.

As it became clear to me this morning, she hasn’t changed one bit.

It just makes me sad that she has to drag my niece into the middle this stupid mess.  I still don’t have a clue as to why she’s mad at me, but it is very clear that she is. And she doesn’t feel it is necessary to clue me in to the reason.

To be frank, is really pissing me off. Which, is probably the point. She’s acting all high and mighty, like she has some upper hand in the situation… She is probably completley enjoying the fact that she got under my skin.

She said she “would never” keep my niece away from me. But who unfriended us? Hmmm… Um.. she did.

She said it’s “not important” and “not serious” why she’s mad at me. Then just tell me. But in the same breath she says it would “offend” me. I said bring it on.. offend me. Oh, and then she went on to say that my niece is “a good judge of character.” Which sounds like to me this is some attack on my character.

WTF.

I just don’t know what to think anymore. I know I need to stop worrying about it… shake off the crazy and move along.  But it’s really bugging me.. she’s making it out to be like my niece has some problem with me too… since she’s such a “good judge of character” and all.

I can’t for the life of me figure out what I did that was so wrong.

I think I’m a good person. After all I have been through with this person, I have tried to be civil and friendly to her.  I’ve ALWAYS been good to the kids. I love them more than she will ever know… I would give them the shirt off my back.. I would do anything for them. I can’t understand how she can call my character into question, when she is the one with the incredibly spotty track record.

UGH. I’m just so frustrated. And I guess I will never know… since I kind of told her I didn’t need people like her in my life. Which, is very very true.

I’m trying to cut down on the crazy. 

My only hope now is that my brother-in-law can get to the bottom of this, or that my niece will tell me… although I doubt that since she has to live with the psycho… and any repercussions that go along with talking to me… becasue sadly I’m sure there are.

Sigh.